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10 Saints Versus 100 Demons


As an indie-writer/blogger, I have seen and done a lot of self-promoting. I started many of my social media sites just for the sole purpose of selling myself to thousands and thousands of people who didn’t really give two-shits about anything I had to say (pardon the language). As time has gone on, I have realized a few things.

  • Those people I originally wanted to sell myself to, really don’t care
  • Those people I originally wanted to sell my books to, don’t care and don’t have the money
  • Those people I originally wanted to create a following with, only want to create a following of their own

 By the time I had realized all of this, I had basically become one of those people. A person who spams links day-in and day-out, begs for follows and likes, and are only out for one thing: tangible benefits. AKA MONEY.

But I learned good things, too.

  • There are people who care
  • There are people who take the time to read your books and posts, and even interact with you
  • Those people are the ones who matter

 With the rise in self-publishing and indie authors, it has become hard to find anyone worth following or talking to on social media. They are there, but you have to wade through all of the self-promo links and spammy DMs to get to them. Overtime, I have made friends, gained mentors, and even joined whole groups for people who just want to discuss what I love the most: writing.

We share. We don’t sell.

I’m buying books from friends, not spammy links. I want to support my friends and help them in anyway I can because I know they would do the same for me.

Sure, they make up about 10% of those who actually follow and read my posts, but that 10% means more to me than the 90% of ghost followers, which leads me to the title of my post.

10 saints versus 100 demons.

I would rather have 10 saints behind me who have nothing but support, advice, and kindness to give, than 100 demons who just want to hang around and watch me fail. It’s not about numbers, it’s about building relationships with people you would have otherwise never met if it weren’t for the amazing avenues of social media we have today.

So, thank you followers, friends, and mentors. If you’re reading this, I appreciate you more than anything in the world. Now, I ask those who are reading that I have never spoken to, mind leaving a comment? I’d love nothing more than to have a conversation and enjoy your company.

Thanks for reading!

-Lissy

Now for irrelevant, but fun friend pictures.

Hanging with fellow writers. We’re not the most normal bunch.
Need I say more?

5 thoughts on “10 Saints Versus 100 Demons”

  1. I have had a very similar experience. It’s funny how outlooks change. I think the big difference for me was Google+. True, thriving communities just seem so few and far between on other platforms.

    The problem I have now is that before it was kind of fun to be the soulless self-promoter, watch the numbers climb and what not. Now, everything else pales in comparison and I find myself dreading digging up links to share and post as marketing fodder.

    Like the new layout by the way!

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    1. Thank you Jon. I can always count on you to comment and start discussion, while also slipping in a genuine compliment. I can’t thank you enough.

      Now, back to the discussion.

      Google+ seems so active and consistently so. It also seems to be the place to go for writer communities, at least in my opinion. I have never seen so many writers together, sharing and helping, all in one place.

      I always have had a pitiful need for acceptance and public validation. As a soulless promoter, I got plenty of that, but once everyone started actually interacting with me and trying to start discussions, I started to long for interaction. I love starting dialogues. Validation and acceptance is nice, but dialogue and long-term interaction is even better. Acceptance comes with time, so I haven’t lost that aspect, but I no longer need to be validated by everyone.

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      1. I totally get that. It is easy to get that instant gratification from the soulless side of things. But once you’ve found a group that will actually respond to what you have to say, offer feedback and bring another angle into the fray, it just doesn’t compare…

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  2. I agree entirely with this post. The knowledge and support that writers can get from simply sharing ideas and experiences is worth far more than any potential gains from simply trying to sell to one another. I cannot stand the kindle boards where everyone is just screaming “look how great I am because I sell more books than you – buy my book to find out how I do it”.

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    1. Ugh yes… I never want to become a soulless bot of self-promotion. I limit myself to one day, and one post per social media, unless communities are involved, in which case I branch out to one post per community. Then, I leave it to do as it pleases. The rest of my “self-promo,” is just me posting information and tips on my blog. I share, I don’t sell. I let people see for themselves what I have to offer. If they like it, awesome. If not, well, maybe next time. No need to throw it in their faces every chance I get.

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