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Why I love to read?

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When I was I bored, I read Junie B. Jones and laughed at her antics.

When my sister was sick and away in the hospital, I could pretend she was staying with Amelia Bedelia and would be coming home soon.

When my parents were divorcing, I realized it wasn’t as scary as the Goosebumps books stuffed beneath my bed.

When I was angry, I could calm down in the arms of my favorite teen heart throbs (Tamani from Wings and Dimitri from Vampire Academy, I’m looking at you).

When I was alone and felt like the world may crumble around me, I could run and run and run forever with the characters in Stephen King’s Cell.

Even today, when I don’t think I’m going to make it, I can pick any book on my shelf and escape for awhile. That’s what books are – glimpses. Glimpses into worlds I will never see. I’ve made friends that I can’t talk to, met people that don’t exist (or did, but don’t anymore). I’ve had adventure after adventure – I’ve had a life full of impossibles made possible by words on a page. I’ve lived so many lives, all while never leaving the comfort of mine. Why I love to read?

Reading has made my life richer than any job or promotion ever could. Reading is happiness.

Thanks for reading.

-Lissy

P.S.

And parents, please read to your kids.

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3 things you need to do when your hobby begins to feel like a job.

It’s been a long, long, long time since I’ve actually stopped and enjoyed the process of writing. I went through a short phase where I just kept telling myself, “It’s okay, it won’t be long until I can write again,” and that was enough for me. Then it got to the point where I would put things ahead of writing time. I had to prepare for my promotion, then I had to train once I received the promotion, then I had school, then I had tests… Those things do take priority, but even during down time, when none of those things had any hold on me, I still found myself saying, “It’s okay, it won’t be long until I can write again.”

I had become the one person I always blogged about, trying to avoid. I became the writer who talks about writing, but never actually does.

Sure, yes, I do have a lot going on right now. Senior year is right in front of me, and a new job with more responsibilities on top of that eats up a lot of time… Not to mention squeezing in cuddle time with the boyfriend, which I must say I do desperately need during the week. But I have never considered writing a burden or a chore. It never felt that way to me, and even though I have made it out to seem that way, it still doesn’t.

I just miss the time when it was just all for fun, and back when I could sit there and write for hours upon hours, much like how I used to read – another hobby which has met the same terrible fate as writing. Now, life takes so much precedence, I find everything to be tiring. Everything is work, now, even when what I’m doing is supposed to relax me after work.

Writing used to be my life, then reality seeped in and tainted my brain with all of this adult gobbildy-goop.

But, as always, one thing has helped to remedy my terrible predicament: a list. I’ve discovered a few tactics to fight against the adult gobbildy-goop, and while I still haven’t mastered it, I’m getting better. Onward to the list!

  • You have to become double-brained.
    Unfortunately, this is the hardest thing to accomplish, and it certainly sounds that way. You have to separate the work brain from the writing brain. Or, in my case, I have to separate the Work Brain, the School Brain, the Writer Brain, and the Intern Brain. In most cases, I’m sure it’ll be more like triple-brained, or quadruple-brained, but double-brained just sounds cooler. The best way I have found to achieve this is to utilize every second of downtime to decompress. Leave a pause between each brain so you can start fresh. This is easier said than done, especially with all of the wonderful social media to sink hours and hours in. You need time to just turn off for a little while. Have a few moments to yourself with no distraction in any shape or form. This way, you won’t lose your precious down time doing something unproductive both mentally and physically.
  • If you can’t find down time, don’t stop moving.
    As I disclaimed earlier, I still have yet to master this list, especially with the first point. I have a terrible social media addiction. 99% of the time I’m glued to YouTube or FaceBook, just scrolling or passively watching something, not being actively engaged with anything that is happening on my little iPhone screen. So, until I get my media addiction under control, the only real way I’ve found to stay motivated is to ride the high, so to speak. If I just got done with a paper, I immediately move on to one of my personal projects. I “ride the high.” Granted, I do occasionally burn out because I forget I need to stop, but keeping the productive fire alive is one of the best ways to find a renewed spark with your own work. Do what you have to at work or school in the best way you can, then carry that motivation home with you. Do your homework, then move right into your own project.
  • You have to accept that being good at something requires hard work.
    It’s just the way the world works. If I ever want to be a serious author (make money doing what I love), I have to work for it. I need to treat it like a job, like it’s something that just has to be done because it has to be done. Sometimes we have to think of things like they are work if we ever want to get better. Otherwise, my writing will always be “just a hobby.” And even if you don’t necessarily want your hobby to become your means of financial stability, you want to be good, right? Then you have to work for it. Some people have that natural, raw ability, but those are the exceptions. Not the rule.

It’s okay to slack off sometimes, but when you’re making excuses just to avoid doing what you love because it feels too hard… then you’re avoiding progress. There’s a reason it feels like too much work. If it’s not worth fighting for, then is it really worth doing at all?

Let me know, and comment below! Thanks for reading.

-Lissy

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I’m an introvert, and I’m happy

Introvert – Not synonymous with shyness. An introvert is not characterized by being shy, though that does not mean they aren’t. Someone who finds people and interacting with them to be physically and mentally draining, preferring to be alone to recharge. An introvert is not constantly in a state of depression and should not be characterized as such. An introvert can have excellent social skills and have many friends whom they regularly socialize, but won’t make it a point to seek out interaction. Introverts are often introspective and prefer to be alone with their thoughts.

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The farther I go into my college and writing career, the more I realize who I am and who I may be becoming. The summer has come to a close. My internship has ended, school has begun… and I’m still learning more and more about myself.

Life has whisked me away again.

I have friends, lots of them, but I’m probably one of the most garbage friends in the world. I see texts and calls, and often times I just don’t reply. It’s not because I don’t want to – far from it – but the way my life is going right now, I don’t have much me time. At my age, that seems extremely childish to say. But at my age, I think it’s okay to be selfish once in a while. I have my whole life ahead of me. I’m going to meet so many people in this short time span we call life, and the one person I’m going to spend every second with is the one sitting at this computer, writing this post:

Me.

I don’t want this post to be me lamenting life and how crowded it can sometimes seem, but when 90% of my time is spent in the presence of people I have little to no interest in associating with, I live for those times I get to be by myself.

I love my friends. I love my boyfriend. I love my family. None of that has changed or ever will change…

But I love myself, too. I love sitting behind a book, a laptop, or just sitting and simply existing. I love writing because it’s one of the few things in this world that requires only one person and their thoughts, and I actually have fun doing it. I go to work, I go to school, I spend time around campus, then I go home. Not exciting, not magical or something I want to blog about every day.

But I don’t need it to be. My life is considered boring by most of the population, but I love it.

It’s okay guys. I’m happy. I hope you are, too.

Thanks for reading.

-Lissy

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You are going to be perfect

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“My mom said I’m going to be…”
“My dad said I should…”
“My friends say I will…”
“Everyone is telling me I should…”

“I’m tired of people telling me how I’m going to be and how I should live my life.”

Well, I’m going to tell you.

You’re gonna be perfect because you are going to become what you want to become.

The biggest mistake you can make in your life is changing your life goals and setting your dreams aside for what others see in you.

Money isn’t everything.

Money won’t always be there. It’s this tangible thing that can grow instantly, but fade just as quickly as it is gained.

Happiness is something you can cultivate for a lifetime, and you can never have enough of it.

Spend your life obtaining your happiness, not making others happy.

You are gonna be what you want to be, which is perfect because it is what you want, and that’s all that matters.

And no matter what, I am proud of you, for standing up for yourself and your dreams – your happiness.

-Lissy

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Life Update

Hello all!

As I’m sure you’ve noticed, my posts have been dwindling bit-by-bit, week-by-week. While I usually would chalk it up to laziness, I do have a few things to share with you all that might reveal a few things. Onward to the list.

  • The Snowpocalypse of Alabama
    If you’ve read my about page, then you’d know I’m from Alabama. The South was hit by a snow storm that no one expected to be more than a light dusting. And if you’ve ever been to the South, we don’t do snow. However, we underestimated this one and were ill prepared to handle it. 150 accidents in my city, me being stranded on campus for hours, then being stuck in traffic for five hours, after abandoning my car, then finally getting home only to be snowed in later. I’ve been a little “blah” where writing and posting is concerned.
  • School, work, school, work, school
    Need these be explained?
  • Anxiety
    This has been an awful month, in general. Not to say there weren’t good parts, but there has been far more wrong than right. I have major anxiety problems, and this month has been the worst for them. Anxiety leads to depression, and depression leads to a lack in motivation. It’s not an excuse, but I’m hoping it’ll at least clarify a few things.

 

That’s really all I have for you all today, and I’m sorry there hasn’t been more writerly nonsense to talk about. Hopefully, now that the snowpocalypse has ended, life can start back and I’ll get back to my regular routine. In the meantime, please check out my interview at Crack the Spine and be prepared for a guest post from a good friend of mine on Monday.

Thanks for reading.

-Lissy

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Parents, please read to your children

Dear Parents;

  • Children who are read to have larger vocabularies.
  • Children who are read to tend to continue to read into adulthood.
  • Children who are read to have higher comprehension skills.
  • Children who are read to develop writing skills much earlier.
  • Children who are read to tend to have higher grades throughout their schooling.
  • Children who are read to often become writers.
  • Children who are read to will read to their children.

Parents, please read to your children.

Sincerely,

A person who was read to as a child.

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